Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Horus Sings on Christmas Morning

I know, I know.  I am becoming one of those unbearable parents who can't resist posting this and that...I guess I am ok with this.  Because I *really* can't resist sharing this video of Horus: Christmas morning, on the ukelele, being his massively charming self.  We really really love this kid.  

Third Day

Well. The third day of Christmas. We have had a beautiful week. The snow on Christmas eve felt like the perfect gift, as we headed off to the Christmas Eve service at St. Stephen's, the tiny Anglican church just a few doors down from our home. St. Stephen's used to be its own parish, I believe, but was amalgamated into the larger Anglican community of the Gagetown area, and now the Christmas Eve service is the only time the church is open. But on Christmas Eve, the exquisite little wooden church was packed.I have been going to church regularly with Horus. (A friend: "I thought you didn't believe in church." Me: "I don't believe in church, or the Bible, or religion, or the concept of God that is usually promulgated by zealots... but I still find it worthwhile to go to church. And I like to sing.") So Horus knows the drill. 

Thursday, December 22, 2011

Happy Merry Everywhere

My Mum called me the other day. Apparently, my godmother, J., had called her after reading my last post, concerned about the fact that I seem...not to happy with--people. (This is how Mum put it). Well, yes. It was a rough week. I do concede to being subject somewhat to wide hormonal swing of pregnancy. But truthfully, the bite and dark and impressive disinhibition is really just a result of being my unpleasant self. (J.--I'm completely ok, sorry about stressing you, and mostly, I think my indignation was mostly pre-emptive. Oh well). 

Thursday, December 15, 2011

No, I Don't Want to Talk

Yah. I'm pregnant. And the only thing I am interested in hearing from anyone, is NOTHING, or, from the really uber-thrilled, "congratulations". That's it. If you're concerned about the population here on planet earth, and you feel that I am personally implicated in the demise of civilization or the ozone layer, shove it. If you're concerned about how I'm going to manage as the sole financial contributor (teaching piano two days a week) with three children, and a severely artistic husband, SO AM I. If you think it might be clever to couch your disapproval with a "gee whiz, THREE kids!!! wow!!!" or a "WHoa! another one!!!", please. Keep it to yourself. And if you feel the need to give me a short tutorial on birth control, you can just go ahead and F*** yourself. Even I know that that won't get you knocked up--heaven forbid. 

Tuesday, December 6, 2011

First Trimester


Which last picture of me? This one! Horus took it. In general, I am exhausted and grumpy and achy and a little bit sad. But I'm ok.

Sunday, December 4, 2011

New Life, Unassisted, Winter

I am becoming acquainted with the turn and dip and waver of these new country roads. Landmarks and patterns have started to appear. I feel so lucky to have such a gorgeous commute, and to still be tethered by the beautiful river. It is still a bit strange to be away from the kids--even if it is only for a day and a half a week. But I am so grateful that Lee is able to be with the kids when I am not.  I am so happy with this hood.I continue to adore teaching piano--increasingly, actually. My students are all brilliant in their own way, and I possess an almost endless reserve of patience ...keeping in mind that my lessons run for half an hour, of course. Mrs. Drover, my piano teacher while growing up, was a major influence on me, then and now. But until starting this teaching position, I didn't realize the degree to which her approach to the piano and to pedagogy was so formative for me. In many ways, my piano lesson was a bit of a refuge for me, as a kid. On the other hand, I also remember my own stubbornness and indolence as a piano student, and I am especially pained on Mrs. Drover's behalf, now that I'm sitting on the other side of the bench, so to speak. Sigh.Everything is...good. Lee and I have slept in our own bed, in our own room, for three nights now. It is luxurious, and quite fun. We are playing grown-ups! So nice to have the kids trundle in in the mornings to snuggle. Horus and Tree have been getting along quite well lately. Things seem more balanced, certainly, now that Treva can hold her own, communicate, and, I hate to say it, but, fight back.We bought some lobster from a guy at the Gagetown Christmas market, and had a fantastic feast. I told Horus that he could absolutely cut all the feelers and legs off the lobster with the garden secateurs. I said no to the hammer at first, but gave in quickly, and he made a glorious mess on the floor. It was grand. That last picture is of me, taken by Horus. Yes! I am growing another one. Lee and I had just talked about our five year plan, which would involve another child in....five years! So this was...surprising. But we are all thrilled, actually.  Well, Lee was thrilled immediately (which is so totally heartening and sweet), and I rallied, and now we are both Really, really thrilled. Horus frequently comes up to me, pats my belly and says "I just can't believe the is another baby in there". He is sure it's a boy. This one will come into the world in the summer season, and I am very happy to be settling into a peaceful, unassisted, un-interfered-with pregnancy and birth. I keep remembering that if I were in the system, they would be trying to poke me with needles an radiate my baby just about now. I noticed a 3d ultrasound facility in Rothesay last week.  So frightening.  No. No, I am well, and so is this small person growing in my body. Of course, yesterday, and three days ago, I was a quivering wreck, ultra-sensitive and weepy. But this passes. And there is a quality of catharsis to the emotional stuff of early pregnancy that relieves, affirms life.  Lee has learned to deflect and defer. He really is a great guy.